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HERITAGE FLORIDA JEWISH NEWS, AUGUST 9, 2013 PAGE 7A By Dr. Jill Gabriell~ Klein Dr. Jill Gabrielle Klein is' author of "We Got the Water: Tracing My Family's Path through Auschwitz" My father had to cope with an unfathomable situation: at the young age of 16, he was a prisoner in Auschwitz. He was deported from Hungary in the spring of 1944, was separated from his fam- ily and friends, and spent a year in Nazi concentration camps. Today he is In the decades since the war ended he has. enjoyed life to its fullest, having decided the day he was liberated that he would not give any more of himself to his captors by continuing to suffer. My father speaks at schools, churches, synagogues, and libraries about his Holo- caust experiences. Recently, we have begun speaking to business executives about resilience--the ability to face adverse everits with fortitude and to enact suc- cessful coping strategies. As a social psychologist, I talk about the psychology of re- silience, what the research tells us, and how executives can benefit from the tools that nourish resilience. My father speaks about his camp experiences, and par- ticularly about the coping strategies that helped him stay determined to survive. One reason why his mes- sage is so powerful is that nothing we face at work can ever even come close to what he faced in Nazi concentra-: tion camps. If a 16-year-old kid could generate and enact coping strategies that helped him survive in the camps, then the rest of us should certainly be able to develop the skills necessary to func- tion and even thrive in a difficult workplace. Surviving in the camps took more than determina: tion. A positive attitude was not nearly enough to stay alive in a death camp, and many strong, resilient people perished in the Holocaust. Luck was necessary as well, and alot of it. On the margin, however, mental attitude mattered. In talking with executives, my father shares his story and the coping strategies that he employed. Three are critical and are consistent with research on resilience: 1. Have a Challenge Mind- set My father spent much of his camp life carrying heavy steel rails up a hill, over and over again, from the .first light of day until sunset. During this time, he saw his struggle to survive as a battle he was fighting with the SS. If he gave in, then the Nazis would win, and he refused to give them this victory. If he stayed alive, then he would win. He was also resolute about return- ing home to his family. He worried about what would happen if his mother and sis- ters came home and he didn't (by then he had learned that his father had been killed in Auschwitz). This concern got him up off the cold ground every morning determined to make it through another day. Research finds that one's mental attitude in the face of adversity has a signifi- cant impact on physical and mental wellbeing. More spe- cific'ally, the ability to turn a threat into a challenge is at the heart of resilience. When .facing adversity, try turning the thre;at into a challenge. Askyour~selfwhat youwant to accomplish in your difficult situation, and refer often to your most essential goals. 2. Break it Down My father had no way of knowing if or when he would be liberated. Thus, he could not guess whether his suffering would continue for weeks, months or even years. But the end of the day was something he could foresee. When he woke up every morning, he made a commitment to himself that he would be make it back to his barracks in the evening. And when he went to sleep at night he was resolute that he would wake up in the morn- ing. In this way he struggled through--day'after day, and night after night--until the morningwhen he was finally liberated. Psychologists find that a sense of control is es- sential to reducing stress in Sudoku (see page 19 for solution SUDOKU Answers from O8/O2/2013 difficult times. If you find yourself struggling with adversity of unknown dura- tion and scope, try breaking down what you are facing into manageable pieces, and generate small short- term goals that will keep you going. " 3. Find Social Support My father tried to always have a friend in the camp. He would connect with another young person who, like him, had an optimistic attitude, at least a bit of hope that one day their ordeal would" be over. Even when he lost a close friend that he made in the camp (his friend was transferred to an unknown destination), he ought and found new friends. In his final camp, he had two close buddies and they referred to themselves as the "Three Musketeers." My father was a caring friend and he knew had to draw encouragement from others. My father also found help from an unlikely source. One morning during roll call an SS sergeant walked up to my father's section and yelled, "Which one of you young in- mates speaks German?" My father raised his hand into the air and was selected to work for two weeks with a ci- vilian German engineer. The two of them spent worked in the woods surveying the location for new railways and roads, The engineer took pity on my father and snuck him food each day from the SS kitchen. The calories helped replenish his body, and the caring helped replenish his morale. He brought some of the food back to his barracks to share with his friends. Resilience does not mean having the strength to go it alone. People who con- sistently demonstrate resil- ience have the ability to seek out and accept support from others, and they find oppor- tunities to give to those who are worse off. As you struggle with adversity identify allies and those who could ben- efit from your support. As a leader, the help you provide to your team will be vital to them, and the compassion you demonstrate will also help in your own coping. Essential Strategies These three strategies-- embracing a challenge mind- set, breaking a difficult situation into manageable parts, and connecting with others--helped my father survive in' tremendously difficult circumstances. In our discussions with senior executives, we find that they, too, are able to garner wisdom from my father's ex- periences and learn to apply these key tools of resilience. Next time an adverse event strikes you, I hope that you can find strength from my father's example. Dr. Jill Gabrielle Klein earned a doctorate in social psychology from the Uni- versity of Michigan and is currently a business profes- sor at Melbourne Business School at the University of Melbourne. In We Got the Water, Dr. Klein shares her family's harrowing experi= ence as prisoners at Aus- chwitz concentration camp. We Got the Water (April20130 is available at www.amazon. com. For more information, visit www.wegotthewater. com. Today, Dr. Klein and her father lead executive train- ing sessionS where they combine Gene's experience with Dr. Klein's academic expertise to explore the concepts of resilience and survival. Their most recent workshop was with admin- istrators at Duke University. you could SQVe 28%" Call 1-866-9L:~-90"TI to see how much you could sore on oar insurance. "Nahonol over~3e u'~ual savings basecl on dQto Esumnce between 12/1/11 ond 4/.~O/12. ,.~ .................................................... an Allstate'cornpony 2 ' 9 6 715 6 1 4 6 82 39 94 5 7 3 4 532 8 8 3 StatePolnt Mcdla Fill in "the blank squares in the grid, making sure that every row, column and 3-by-3 box includes all digits 1 through 9. Central Florida Synagogue Service Schedule and Directory Orlando Weekday Morning Minyan (Conservative/Egalitarian), services Monday-Friday 7:45 a.m. (9 aan. - national holidays); 2nd floor Chapel - Jewish Academy of Orlando; 851 N. Maitland Ave., Maitland. For information call 407-298-4650. Celebration Jewish Congregation (R), services and holiday sched- ules shown at www.JewishCelebration.org; 407-566-9792. Chabad Lubavitch of North Orlando (O), 39 Skyline Drive, Suite 1017, Lake Mary, 407-878-3011, www.jewishorlando.com; services: second Friday of each month at 7:30 p.m.; every S~urday at 10 aan. Chabad of South Orlando (O),'7504 Universal Blvd., Orlando, 407-354-3660; wwwjewishorlando.com; Shabbat services: Friday, 7 p.m.; Saturday, 9:30 a.m.; services, Mondaypand Thursday, 8 a.m. Chabad of the Space & Treasure Coasts (O~, 1190 Highway AIA, Satellite Beach, 321-777-2770. Congregation Ahavas Yisrael/Chabad (O), 708 Lake Howell Rd., Maitland, 407-644-2500;www.chabadorlando.org; services: Sunday, 9 a.m.; Monday-Friday, 7:30 a~m.; Shabbat services: Friday, 6:30 ~.m.; Saturday, 9:30 a.m.; Family service, 4th Friday of the month. Congregation Bet Chaim (R), 426 Lakeport Cove, Casselberry, 407-830-7211; www.betchaim.org; Shabbat services: Friday, 8 p.m.; 2nd Saturday of the month, 10:30 aan. at Savannah Court in Maitland. Congregation Beth Am (C), 3899 Sand Lake Road, Longwood, 407-862-3505; www.congbetham.org; Shabbat services: Friday, 7:30 p.m.; Saturday, 9:30 a.m~ Congregation Beth El(C), 2185 MeadowlaneAve.,West Melbourne, 321-779-0740; Shabbat services, 1st & 3rd Friday, 8 p.m.; 2nd & 4th Saturdays, 9:30 a.m. Congregation Beth Emeth (R ),2205 Blue Sapphire Circle, Oflando, 407-855-0772; Shabbat service: monthly, 8 p.m. Congregation Betl~ Israel (Rec), Collins Resource Center, Suite 303, 9401S,R. 200, Ocala, 352-237-8277; bethisraelocala.org; Shabbat service, second Friday of the month, 8 p.m. Congregation Beth Sholom (R-C), 315 North 13th St., Leesburg, 352-326-3692; www.bethsholomflorida.org; schedule of services on website. Congregation Beth Shalom (Progressive Conservative), Orange City congregation holds services at Social Hall of Our Lady of Lakes Church, 1310 Maximillian St., Deltona; 386-804-8283;wwwanybeth- shalom.corn; Shabbat services: Friday, 7:30 p.m.; Saturday, 10 aan. Congregation B'nai Torah' (C), 403 N. Nova Rd., Ormond Beach, 32174, 386-672-1174; www.mybnaitorah.com; Shabbat services: Friday, 8 p.m.; Saturday, 10 a.m. Congregation Chabad Lubavitch of Greater Daytona (O), 1079 W. Granada Blvd., Orrnond Beach, 386-672-9300; Shabbat services Friday, 7:30 p.m.; Saturday, 10 a.m. Congregation of Reform JudaiSm (R), 928 Malone Dr., Orlando, 407-645-0444; www.crjorlando.org: Shabbat services, 7 pan. 1st Friday; 8 p.m., 2nd and 3rd Fridays; 6 p.m., 4th and 5th Fridays; Saturday: 10 a.m. ,, Congregation Mateh Chaim (R), P.O. Box 060847, Palm Bay, 32906, 321-768-6722. Congregation Ohev Shalom (C), 613 Concourse Parkway South, Maitland, 407-298-4650; www.ohevshalom.org; Shabbat service, Friday, 7:30 p.m.; Saturday, 9 aan.; Junior Congregation., 10:00 a.m. Congregation Or Chayirn (Rec), Leesburg, 352-326-8745; egrae@ hotmail.com; services last Friday of each month at 3:30 p.m. at vari- ous private residences. Congregation Shalom Aleichem (R), 3501 Oak Pointe Blvd., Kis- simmee,407-935-0064;www.shalomaleichem.com; Shabbatservice, 1st and 3rd Fridays of the month, 8 p.m. Congregation Sinai (C/R), 303 N. S.R. 27, Minneola; 352-243- 5353; congregationsiflai@cfl.rr.com; services: every Friday, 7:30 p.m.; Healing Service, first Friday of the month, 7 p.m. Southwest Orlando Jewish Congregation/Ohalei Rivka (C), 11200 S. Apopka-Vineland Rd., Orlando, 407-239-5444; Shabbat service, Friday, 7:30 p.m.; Saturday, 9:30 a.m. Temple BethEl(l~), 579 N. NovaRd., Ormond Beach, 386-677-2484. Temple Beth Shalom (R), P.O. Box 031233, Winter Haven, 813- 324-2882. Temple Beth Shalom (C), 40 Wellington Drive, Palm Coast, 386- 445-3006; Shabbat service, Friday, 8 p.m.; Saturday, 9 a.m. Temple Beth Sholom (C), 5995 N. Wickham Rd. Melbourne, 321-254-6333; www.mytbs.org; Shabbat services: Friday, 5:5.0 p.m.; Saturday: 9:30 aan. Minyan, Tuesday, 7:30 p.m.; Thursday, 10:00 aan. Temple Beth Shalom (R), 1109 N.E. 8th Ave., Ocala, 352 -629 -3587; Shabbat services: Friday, 8 p.m.; Torah study: Saturday, 10:00 a.m. Temple B'nai Darom (R), 49 Banyan Course, Ocala, 352-624-0380; Friday Services 8 p.m. Temple Israel (C), 50 S. Moss Rd., Winter Springs, 407-647-3055; www.tiflorida.org; Shabbat services: Friday, 7:30 p.m.; Saturday, 9:30 aan.; Sunday 9:00 aan. Temple Israel (R), 73~0 Lake Andrew Drive, Melbourne, 321- 631-9494. Temple Israel (C), 1400 S. Peninsula Ave., Daytona Beach, 386- 252-3097; Shabbat service, 8 p.m.; Saturday: 9 a.m. Temple Israel of DeLand (R), 1001 E. New York Ave., DeLand, 386-736-1646; Friday Shabbat service, 7 p~m. Temple Shalom (formerly New Jewish Congregation) (R), 13563 Country Road 101, Oxford, 352-748-1800;www.newjewishcongrega- tion.org; Shabbat services: Friday, 7:30 p.m.; last Saturday of the month, 9:30 a.m. Temple Shalom of Deltona (R/C), 1785 Elkcam Blvd., Deltona, :386-789-2202; Shabbat service; 7:30 p.m.; Saturday: 1Oaan. Temple Shir Shalom ofOviedo (R) Services held in the EPICenter at University Carillon United Methodist Church, 1395 Campus View Court, Oviedo, 407-366-3556, www.templeshirshalom.org; Shabbat seryices: three Fridays each month, 7:30 p.m. Traditional Congregation of Mount Dora (Ti Mount Dora, 352- 735-4774; www.tcomd.org; services: second and fourth Fridays and Saturday of the month. (R) Reform (C) Conservative (O) Orthodox (Rec) Reconstructionist