HERITAGE FLORIDA JEWISH NEWS, AUGUST 1, 2014 PAGE 7A
Mourners J?007,tpeace in a grief
suppon00 group--Part 3
By Yvonne David
Yvonne David suffered the
loss of her father last Sep-
tember and joined a grief
support group sponsored by
the Jewish Pavilion and VITAS
Innovative Hospice Care. Held
at Chambrel at Island Lake,
a Brookdale Senior Living
Community, this griefsupport
group has helped her mourn,
adjust and embrace life again.
David's articles about the first
three weeks of the class and
the last three weeks of the
class were published in the
May 9 and the June 20 issues
respectively. This third and
final article is about the follow-
up meeting one month later.
A month following the
completion of the six-week
bereavement group sessions,
Rabbi Maurice Kaprow set up
one last meeting to see how the
participants had fared during
the past 30 days.
Rabbi Kaprow mentioned
how everyone had grown dur-
ing the grief support group
sessions. He went on to explain
how one of the important
aspects of healing is to keep
active following the loss of a
loved one. Engage in the busi-
ness of life again!
As you learn to live without
your loved one, network and
be around others to find your
niche. There are many orga-
nizations that have volunteer
opportunities, such as the sis-
terhood of a synagogue, Hadas-
sah and art. Joining awidows'
group or a social organization
can also help. Making new
friends while helping others
are the positives that come out
ofaffiliatingwith a group, even
while we still mourn our loss.
OB -UARY
SHERYL MARISSA POPE
Sheryl M. Pope of Orlando
passed away on Wednesday,
July 23, 2014, at her residence.
She was 24 years old. A native
of Orlando, she was born on
Feb. 8, 1990, to Barry and
Ami Koenig Pope. Ms. Pope
attended Orlando area schools
and worked as a customer
service supervisor for Whole
Foods.
In addition to her parents,
she is survived by her mater-
nal grandmother, Evelyn Koe-
nig of Orlando; her paternal
grandmother, Peggy Pope of
Significant dates without
our loved ones inevitably arise.
"How did you feel on your
father's birthday?" the rabbi
asked me.
I held my breath. It was hard,
I thought. But...
During the hiatus from
the bereavement group, my
father's first birthday since
his passing inescapably came
around. The emotional void
I felt started to grow inside
me, but then I tried to focus
on his smiling face, his in-
fectious chuckle and one of
his amazing survival stories.
However, I wanted to have a
stronger connection to him;
to do something that we had
shared together.
He was famous for his
ratatouille. Better than in
Provence, a friend had once
told my father and me. How
we had laughed about that!
I used to make boeuf bour-
guignon to accompany his
French vegetable stew. But
on my father's birthday last
month, my husband and my
son helped in cooking these
dishes. It became a family affair
for a new generation. It was a
wonderful day of togetherness,
with my father very much in
our hearts and minds.
As we relished the tasty food,
we also savored the memories
we had shared with my father,
such as the time when grand-
father and grandson cooked
up a surprise romantic dinner
for my husband and me at our
home. My father wore a large
chef's hat and apron, while
my son dressed in a black
suit, white shirt and bowtie. It
was a formal occasion with a
three-course meal and a menu
printed on posh watermarked
Altamonte Springs; and her
paternal grandfather, Charles
Pope of Orlando. She is also
survived by aunts, uncles and
cousins.
A graveside funeral service
was held at Congregation of
Reform Judaism Cemetery
with Rabbi Arnold Siegel of-
ficiating. In memory of Sheryl
M. Pope, the family requests
memorial contributions to
A New Beginning Animal
Rescue, 3232 E. Colonial
Drive, Orlando 32803. Ar-
rangements entrusted to Beth
Shalom Memorial Chapel, 640
Lee Road, Orlando.
paper. Of course, ratatouille
was on the menu!
While precious recollections
are part of us, we shall always
feel the loss. The first year is
the most difficult; the wound
of loss is the most raw. All
of a sudden something may
trigger a wave of sadness. It is
perfectly normal. A bond with
these individuals was forged
for so many years and it was
taken away. Although there
is no timetable for healing,
attending this grief support
group provides a way to grow.
"Time heals" is a clichg, but it
is the truth.
There are many ways of
remembering our loved ones.
Yiskor is a special memorial
prayer to recite four times a
year in synagogue, a sanctified
connection to our loved ones
who have passed. Giving to
charity in their names honors
their memories. However you
chose to remember your loved
one, it is the correct way for
you. Your loved one was here,
and he or she will continue to
impact your life.
While mourning our loved
ones, we must also understand
our limitations. We must take
care of ourselves. Eat better,
exercise, rest. We can give up
some of our responsibilities
and develop the strength to
say no. Read a favorite book of
our loved ones, go out and do
things with our families, enjoy
the day. We can still embrace
special memories of our loved
ones. For example, looking
through old photos can warm
the heart and make us smile.
I asked Rabbi Kaprow for
some advice about cleaning
out my parents' home of the
past 31 years, as there will be
a great deal of looking through
things. It is a daunting pros-
pect for me this summer in
England.
The rabbi looked at me with
a gentle understanding. "Look
forward to what treasures
you might find. Do not dread
the task. It will be hard. Yes.
There will be plenty of tears,
but it is also an opportunity
to celebrate the life of your
loved one," he said. "Revisit
Yvonne David
those childhood memories.
It may even be rewarding to
learn more about your father."
Jewelry and silver are prized
possessions without a doubt,
but a hand-made tapestry-
covered stool which my mother
made and a framed collection of
participants' commemorative
pins during my father's captain-
cy of Lawn Bowls in the British
Empire and Commonwealth
Games, Perth, Australia, are
somehow more sentimental.
Travel slides in the thousands
of Europe, America, East and
South Africa are another of my
parents' riches.
As Rabbi Kaprow stressed,
"If you can hold fast to the love
and the memories, you will
be a much stronger and more
centered person to carry on
these sentiments to the next
generation."
The grief support group
offered by the Jewish Pavilion
andVITAS Innovative Hospice
Care will again be held at
Chambrel at Island Lake in
Longwood during the fall. I
applaud these organizations
for their admirable work in
this regard, and I strongly
recommend this six-week
course for anyone who is in
need of grief counseling. Rabbi
Maurice Kaprow provided an
invaluable service through his
knowledge, insightandcaring.
Yvonne David is a writer and
an award-winning author. For
further information, please visit:
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