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PAGE 14A HERITAGE FLORIDA JEWISH NEWS, JUNE 15, 2018 By Josefin Dolsten NEW YORK (JTA)--Emily Schorr Lesnick and Jamila Humphrie always knew that Judaism would play a part in the life they wanted to build together. But experiences with Conservative Jewish institu- tions had made the couple feel less than welcome. Schorr Lesnick, 28, re- members encountering ho- mophobia at her Jewish Conservative summer camp. Humphrie, 29, whowas raised Christian but does not identify with a religion, felt singled out as a non-Jewish and biracial person when she accompanied Schorr Lesnick to synagogue. The experiences "made us feel very unwelcomed and very uninterested in participating in anything in Conservative Jewish spaces, specifically," Humphrie told JTA. The two women, who live in Harlem, got married in a civil ceremony on New Years Eve in 2016. At the time they did not consider having a religious ceremony. But at the insistence of Schorr Lesnick's father, they agreed last year to meet with the rabbi of her family's longtime synagogue, Shaa- rei Tikvah, a Conservative 1 2 3 4 TO D A 14 A R A V 17 L E W I III 23 24 25 B A L T 29 L A U E 32 A R I D 37 COS 41 42 K N E A II , 48 49 S C A R 52 P R I V 55 R E N E 62 A D E N 65 T O R T 7154 4639 congregation in Scarsdale, New York. The Conservative move- ment bans its rabbis from per- forming interfaith marriages, so Rabbi Adam Baldachin sug- gested performing an aufruf for the couple, a ceremony usually done ahead of a Jewish wedding in which the couple is called up to the Torah for a blessing. Baldachin and his synagogue's ritual committee had recently decided to offer aufruf ceremonies to inter- faith couples as an alternative way to celebrate their unions. Schorr Lesnick and Humphrie say that planning the aufruf, which will take place in June, has made them more open to exploring Jewish rituals and religious practices. "I do think that it turned on a light switch that 'it's not all the same, and we can make our own spaces, we can make a choice about this,'" Humphrie said. The Conservative move- ment has long urged outreach to interfaith families, on the theory that a welcoming atmosphere will encourage them to engage with Jewish life and raise their children with a Jewish identity. But many rabbis say the intermar- riage ban presents a hurdle. m 7 I R A 27 R Y E R 43 S O N 57 U N A 10 11 12 13 A L E S 16 M O A T 19 A U R A t N. 6 E S Si E U B 35 I 36 R M A' L 4O E 44 A Y I N .RD I R U S Ill 59 60 61 I L L E T E .A U Y N C S 38962 12875 As a result, some are try- ing to find creative ways to honor and welcome couples, who might otherwise steer clear of their synagogues and perhaps find spiritual homes elsewhere. "The Conservative move- ment in some ways has created a barrier for many rabbis with the policies that are constantly reinforced and talked about," said Rabbi Jesse Olitzky of Congregation Beth El in South Orange, New Jersey. "Families are making the assumption that because of said policies there is no place to ritually welcome an interfaith couple or an inter- faith family." In October, the movement doubled down on its intermar- riage ban, after a number of rabbis performed or said they would perform marriages between a Jew and a non- Jew. Marrying a non-Jewish partner is common among non-Orthodox Jews: A 2013 study by the Pew Research Center's 2013 study of Ameri- can Jewry found that more than 70 percent have done so since 2000. While the Reform movement allows its rabbis to perform intermarriages, the Conservative movement, like the Orthodox, prohibits them. Olitzky has performed au- fruf ceremonies for a handful of interfaith couples. "My job and my goal is to make sure that all members of the Jewish home feel a part of every life cycle event," he said. "I think the aufruf is a good example of how we can do that inwelcoming the couple's commitment to building that home." Rabbi Steven Abraham of Beth El Synagogue in Omaha, Nebraska, observes but does not support his movement's ban on intermarriage. "The irony of the aufruf for an interfaith couple is that most likely, unless the rabbi made some decision on his or her own, they're not going to be performing the wedding," he said. "So this is as close as you're going to get to a public ritual where you're pronounc- ing fact that they're going to be married." In performing an aufruf for an interfaith couple, Abraham wants to send the message to others that interfaith mar- riage "isn't a capital crime." "I would be able to very easily tell that young person who's sitting in the service, 'Listen, I would much prefer that you Jamila Humphries (1) and Emily Schorr Lesnick are an interfaith couple that is taking part in an aufruf ceremony in a Conservative synagogue. probably marry a Jew, but if you don't marry a Jew I don't want you to think that you don't belong here,'" he said. Rabbi Dahlia Bernstein at Congregation Beth Or in Bellmore, New York, said that many interfaith couples think they are not welcome in her community. "A lot of people assume that just because you're a Conser- vative congregation you will not be welcoming of interfaith families, and my synagogue is not like that, it is radically welcoming," she said. Though the issue of inter- faith aufruf has not come up in her community, Bernstein said she is happy to offer her congratulations to interfaith couples on their marriage. "I generally personally reach out and say mazal tov, and check in with them, and give them space to talk and kvell if they want to and lis- ten," Bernstein said. "I think that a lot of Jewish communi- ties try to use shame as a way of 'maybe if we are secretive about it then no one will know, and it's not going to promote intermarriage,' and it's not the right approach." Rabbi Jeremy Kalmanofsky of Ansche Chesed in New York City supports the Con- servative movement's ban on intermarriage, but says he is open to performing an aufruf for an interfaith couple. "We want to say that it's possible to have a welcoming face to community and still have in-marriage norm," he said. "We want to say it's pos- sible to say to intermarried couple and the children of that intermarried couple, 'we still value your relationship, we still value your lives, we want to support you in your journeys and your lives.' "I don't think there's a reason to say 'tsk-tsk' and not have the Jewish spouse have a celebratory aufruf before the wedding," he added. In 2017, the umbrella body for Conservative synagogues approved a resolution to al- low individual congregations to decide whether to grant membership to non-Jews. Some Conservative Jews have qualms about allowing non- Jews to participate in certain Jewish rituals. Glen Rock Jewish Center in Glen Rock, New Jersey, allows non-Jewish partners to accompany their spouses on the bimah, or ritual stage, for an aliyah honor on their child's bar or bat mitzvah, par- ticipate when a child is given his or her first prayer shawl, and read certain prayers in English. Still, some members remain skeptical about non- Jews' ritual participation, said Rabbi Jennifer Schlosberg. "There are community members for one reason or another who feel uncomfort- able with their involvement, even if it is permissible. One of the challenges for me is trying to educate the other community members to help them become more comfort- able with these things while also recognizing their own voice," Schlosberg said. During their aufruf at Shaarei Tikvah in Scarsdale, Humphrie and Schorr Lesn- ick will go up together to the bimah. Schorr Lesnick will recite the blessings before and after a portion is read from the Torah. Rabbi Baldachin and the synagogue's cantor, Gerald Cohen, will recite a blessing for the couple in Hebrew and English. It will be Baldachin's first time performing an aufruf for an interfaith couple. "This just seemed an easy way for me to be in relation- ship with interfaith families without the ability to perform their wedding," Baldachin said. Prior to allowing aufrufs for interfaith couples, Shaarei Tikvah's ritual committee spent time studying the is- sue. The synagogue already allowed non-Jewish partners to participate in other ways in the service, such as being invited on the bimah during their child's bar or bat mitzvah ceremony and opening the Torah ark. Before allowing an interfaith couple to take part in an aufruf, Baldachin will ask how they plan to maintain a Jewish home. For Baldachin the differ- ence between marriage and an aufruf comes down to Jewish law. The blessing "for an aufruf in general is not a ritual that changes anyone's status," he said. By contrast, a ritual that changes a couple's status from single to married is seen as binding. For Schorr Lesnick being able to celebrate her marriage in her childhood synagogue holds a large significance. "It's exciting to think about being able to have an oppor- tunity where we can imagine what Jewishness could mean for us," she said. DO0 28956 12689 357 14 94872 83165 59427 67238 7341 5437 6298 3516 4729 1683 9154 Members of the Ugandan Jewish community praying in synagogue. By Josefin Dolsten (JTA)--A Ugandan rabbi called on Israel to recognize his community after the government ruled against allowing members to move to the Jewish state. Rabbi Gershom Sizomu confirmed a report in Haaretz last week that the Israeli Interior Ministry had denied a community member's im- migration application. The Interior Ministry, according Uganda on page 15A